A fascinating scenario that I want you guys to read and ponder about. Tell me if it sounds at all familiar...

You are dating this man, and he treats you unbelievably well. You share intense CHEMISTRY with him that you cannot recall sharing such a similar feeling with anyone before.

You think about him more than you'd like to admit... and you quickly go from hardly knowing him, to feeling like you've known him all your life. You're amazed that the more you get to know him... the more great things you see and find out about him.

And as time goes on, you can't believe he's becoming even MORE LOVING, MORE CARING, and MORE AFFECTIONATE. It's like he's THE OPPOSITE of the men you've dated in the past. He's open and loving. He doesn't have any "hang-ups". He doesn't act RESISTANT when it comes to sharing love and affection, or talking about the future. And he doesn't show the FEAR OF COMMITMENT other men do that gets in the way of growing a real and lasting relationship.

But somewhere in the back of your mind,you can't help but wonder... "Is this too good to be true?" And as much as you'd like to play it safe, you can't and it's too late. You've already fallen in love with him. And he's fallen in love with you. And before you know it, you're both saying "I love you" at the end of each conversation you have.

Soon you're spending so much time together that you decide to take a big step and move in together. At first, living together is great and your relationship is better than ever. You're both excited to be together and to spend each night in each other's arms. But just when you feel like this could be the one special relationship that will be truly secure and lasting... something suddenly "shifts".

The casual, easy-going, affectionate way you and the man in your life had with each other disappears. He stops talking to you the way he used to. He stops sharing his feelings with you. And your intuition tells you that, for some reason, his feelings have changed. All of a sudden he's DISTANT. All of a sudden he acts irritable and explodes for no reason when you try and talk to him about your relationship or your feelings. All of a sudden he seems more interested in his work, or hanging out with his friends, than spending time with you.

At first you think the change you're seeing is just part of your imagination. Or that you're just being paranoid. But you notice that he really has stopped saying "I love you" and being affectionate with you. In fact, the only time you hear him say"I love you" anymore is after you say it to him and he responds back.

The nail in the coffin is when you realize that he's even stopped initiating things with you physically. And when you drop hints with him that you'd like to be intimate, or you put yourself out there and initiate something... he doesn't respond.

Ouch! When did men become the ones who are "too tired" for sex... or just aren't in the mood? It's then that you realize that something must be seriously wrong. And you know that if you don't do something, and talk to him, that your relationship is going to keep slipping away into nothingness.

Ok, end of story.

For the sake of the relationship, and to try and be supportive and patient, you decide not to say anything about how his behavior has changed and is keeping you apart... But you can only hold it in so long. You try and cheer him up, or plan things for you both to do that will be fun, romantic,and get you back to feeling the way you used to feel around each other. But he shows little or no interest in the ideas you come up with... and he doesn't take part in planning or doing things with you.

Even though you're trying to "be cool"and stay calm, your feelings and frustrations start to build, and they start to slip out at unexpected times. You feel like you're holding the relationship together all on your own.

And you start to find yourself getting really upset with him for things like forgetting to take out the trash... when the truth is that you're just plain tired and fed up with how he's acting and the distance between you. You'd be willing to take out the trash yourself, along with all the 100 other things you're doing all by yourself to keep your life and your house together... if he'd just "wake up" and start participating in your relationship.

But he doesn't start to open up to you,no matter how much you do to make your lives better or easier... and no matter how much you try and reconnect with him. With all this going on, eventually you EXPLODE EMOTIONALLY and it all comes out. But instead of it bringing you closer and fixing the problems that have been going on... he doesn't listen to you, or try to understand all that you've been trying to do to carry the relationship while he's been "uninvolved".

In fact, he TURNS AGAINST YOU when you try and get him to understand how you feel and everything you've been doing. And he acts as though he doesn't even like being around you because you "nag him" all the time. It seems like there's nothing you can do to make him happy.

Part of the secret to having a man who wants to be physically and emotionally committed with you in a long-term relationship is understanding how the COMMITMENT PROCESS works for HIM. There are times when a man is going to actless "engaged", or tell you he might want his "freedom"... and if you don't know why he's doing this, what it means, and you get freaked out byit and end up putting more distance between you,you're going to painfully regret it.

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But can you imagine, if a guy that you are with, for a long time, tells you one day that his love for you is not as strong as before, for you have lied to him before? Will you still continue being with him? Knowing that he still loves you abit and that you would try to make things work between the two of you????